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Domestic violence affects men too. Are you being abused?

What is domestic violence?

Domestic violence includes a range of behaviours: physical, psychological, sexual or financial abuse. It happens within intimate relationships as well as between family members. It forms a pattern of bullying and controlling behaviours. It is rarely a one-off event and it tends to get worse over time. Abusers can be very manipulative in the way they use their power and control over you and may blame you and other factors for their abusive behaviours.

What kind of person experiences domestic violence?

It can happen to anyone regardless of age, race, gender, sexuality, disability, wealth, gender identity and lifestyle. The Men's Advice Line speaks to straight and gay/bi male victims of domestic violence.

How do you know you are abused by your partner?

If you are forced to change the way you behave because you are frightened of your partner's reaction, it is likely you are  being abused. If you feel afraid, walking on eggshells, intimidated by your partner, it is likely you are being abused. If there is conflict in your relationship and your partner hurts you (physically, emotionally etc) it is likely you are being abused.

Is there help for male victims of domestic violence?

Yes. Find out how we can help you:

Straight male victims of domestic violence

Gay and bi male victims of domestic violence

Frontline workers

The BBC is making a documentary about violent young females which will broadcast as part of a gender season on BBC Three in Autumn/Winter 2015. The film makers hope to include stories of domestic violence, where a woman is the perpetrator. The film makers are keen to hear from as many m en as possible, especially those in the 18-35 age bracket, who have been affected by female violence. Speaking to us doesn’t put you under any obligation to take things any further. If this is something you can help with then please contact the reporter, Alys, directly on: or 07912583640. The deadline is tight as filming will take place in June and July. All information will be in complete confidence.”